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PNP chief: No shame in being ‘under’
“Don’t be ashamed if you are called ander di saya. You should be proud of it because it goes to show that you really love your wife. If you don’t really love her, you won’t really care. You would not allow yourself to become ander de saya,” Ronald dela Rosa, Philippine National Police (PNP) chief, added. Philstar.com/AJ Bolando, file
MANILA, Philippines - Police Director General Ronald dela Rosa may talk tough and be strict with his men, but he has virtually admitted to being ander di saya or under the skirt – a Filipino idiom for husbands submissive to domineering wives.
He said a man should not be ashamed of being henpecked since this only indicates that the man really loves his woman.
“Don’t be ashamed if you are called ander di saya. You should be proud of it because it goes to show that you really love your wife. If you don’t really love her, you won’t really care. You would not allow yourself to become ander de saya,” Dela Rosa, Philippine National Police (PNP) chief, added.
He and wife Nancy Grace served as godparents to 21 couples who participated in Kasalang Bayan 2017, a mass wedding held in St. Joseph Chapel at Camp Crame, the national police headquarters.
“To the husband, I would not be ashamed to give you the same advice I give whenever I stand as a wedding sponsor, the same tried and tested formula: be a police husband, a father to your family. And since you are all policemen, my advise is: be ander de saya. It wouldn’t make you a lesser person, a lesser man if you subscribe to the wishes of your beloved wife,” Dela Rosa told the newlyweds.
Shortly after he was appointed PNP chief by President Duterte, Dela Rosa was photographed holding hands with his wife as he apparently fell asleep on a couch. The photograph went viral as some netizens added the hashtag “#relationship goal.”
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To balance things out, the police chief also advised wives not to be too demanding and domineering because this could, at times, force their husband to becoming corrupt government enforcers.
“Don’t pressure your husband to produce material things because this will pressure him to look for other sources of income through illegal means. This will lead to corruption,” Dela Rosa stressed, as he reminded the couples that the PNP has intensified its cleansing of ranks by removing erring cops from the service.
Because of his years in service, the police chief said he knew too well that some wives demand an iPhone7 from their husbands instead of settling for other brands or models.
“Other wives would compare their husbands, who could be an SPO3 (senior police officer 3), to a PO1 (police officer 1) that was able to give his wife a brand new car. This would pressure the husband to become corrupt,” he added.
It would be better, he also said, if their relationships are focused on God and not on earthy and material things.